Expanded x Ep. 429 - Sabrina Zohar on How to Manifest the Love You Want
You don't have to become perfect to be worthy of love.
Have you ever chased someone who wasn’t fully choosing you, overanalyzed every text, or kept repeating the same relationship patterns, even when you knew you deserved more? What if secure love isn’t about becoming more desirable, but about feeling safe and worthy within yourself?
In this honest, empowering episode, Jessica sits down with dating and relationship coach, podcast host, and author of Why Am I Like This? Sabrina Zohar to unpack the subconscious patterns, attachment wounds, and limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in the same cycles. After anxious attachment, heartbreak, and self-abandonment (including sending 173 texts to someone who rejected her), Sabrina shares how she broke free from validation-seeking and built the self-worth to experience a completely different kind of love. Jessica also opens up about healing her own anxious attachment through the TBM work and how reprogramming limiting beliefs changed her experience of trust, safety, and love.
Whether you’re dating, manifesting a partner, healing from heartbreak, or deepening an existing relationship, this conversation is a reminder: you don’t have to be perfect to be worthy of love. You just have to stop abandoning yourself in pursuit of it.
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In This Episode We Talk About:
How anxious attachment develops and why it can keep us chasing emotionally unavailable partners
Sabrina Zohar's story of sending 173 texts and the deeper abandonment wounds
Why childhood conditioning and subconscious beliefs influence who we're attracted to
The difference between genuine chemistry and nervous system activation
How to recognize when you're attached to the fantasy of someone rather than the reality of the relationship
Are you seeing a red flag? Or is it your anxiety and programming overly protecting you?
Why “if he wanted to, he would” is a trap that bears a more nuanced approach in dating
Why what you think you want in a partner may be different from what you actually need
How to distinguish relationship red flags from anxiety, fear, and protective programming
Why the popular dating advice "if they wanted to, they would" doesn't tell the whole story
Jessica's personal journey of healing trust issues and anxious attachment through TBM
Why you don't need to be fully healed or perfectly unblocked to manifest a healthy relationship
The importance of self-compassion, and inner child reparenting
How to stop self-abandoning, communicate your needs, and establish boundaries
What to prioritize when dating in your 30s and 40s, especially when marriage and family are important goals
How to navigate conflict through regulation, vulnerable communication, and repair
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