Staying In Trust So I Could Work My Dream Job
Name: Shelby Nugent
Where do you reside?: Sarasota, Florida, and Dallas, Texas
What is your cultural upbringing and background?: I grew up in a small midwestern town. My parents have been married for 35 years, and I have 3 younger siblings.
Are you currently a Pathway Member?: Yes
What was on your manifestation list?: Partner Bridge Job Freelance Work Better Relationship with Money Extra Income
What workshops did you use and what blocks did you discover during the DIs & workshops?: I first started with Unblocked Shadow and Unblocked Inner Child. The main blocks I discovered in these workshops were womb wounds, perfectionism, shame around success, fear of failure, and viewing my parent's relationship as a prison. I moved on to Love. This workshop, in addition to my work with Amanda Blair, helped me face blocks around putting people on pedestals and heal my anxious-avoidant attachment style. I was putting the onus on every person I was in an intimate relationship with, romantic or platonic, to validate me. This workshop was TRANSFORMATIVE and allowed me to heal patterns by taking that deep into past relationships and taking my power back!
I also did this workshop, along with taking the In Love flower remedy by Alexis Smart. After Unblocked Love I dove into Unblocked Money, which coincided with a huge Rock Bottom/Uplevel moment in my life. I leaped off of a huge cliff and resigned from my tenured orchestra job with no real backup plan. I would not have been able to jump off this cliff had I not done this work! That being said, it was still terrifying, and ALL OF MY SHIT came up. I consistently participate in the challenges and have learned to take them at my own pace. I am in Daily Practice at least 3-5 times a week and have multiple notes on my phone filled with tracking triggers, pings, and manifestations. Even if I'm not very deep in the work, I'm able to create presence and awareness through journaling and AVIDLY listening to Expanded and Supported!
If you did work with a coach or a few, who did you work with, in what capacity (Q/A service or Session(s)) and how did that contribute to your manifestation process?: I worked with Amanda Blair! When I met Amanda I was in the trenches of heartbreak. Amanda's knowledge of attachment styles was paramount to my progress. She also tells it like it is and does not let me make excuses! She pushed me to become FULLY accountable for my relationship patterns and gave me exercises that helped me truly cut ties with the person I was not over. This ultimately cleared the space for my current partner, who I met literally days after my first coaching with Amanda.
Since being in the relationship, I have come to her with other insecurities and blocks, and she gently guided me back to myself and had amazing advice for connection rituals and setting boundaries within a romantic partnership. I also used the Q and A service on two separate occasions with great success. I still go back and listen to the voice messages I was sent!
What expanders did you find?: Obviously, the ENTIRE TBM team. You all are wonderful! My best friend and colleague who won her dream job shortly after I started doing this work, My roommate, My current partner, Past romantic partners as retrospective bridge expanders, My college mentor, My partner's mother is now my ultimate beauty and wealth expander, My parents! To be honest, I feel I have gotten to a place with this work where almost anyone who comes into my life serves as an expander in one way or another. I'm surrounded by beautiful teachers!
What tests did you face? Which did you pass? Not pass?: Jumping off the cliff and quitting my tenured job- passed, I did the thing! My reaction to jumping off the cliff was not a pass, though. I allowed the shame spiral to overtake me and engaged in some numbing behaviors (scrolling, alcohol, seeking validation), and found myself at a crossroads a few months following the big leap. I'm happy to say I eventually passed the test when I doubled down on the work and committed to staying in trust. It was quite messy and very hard, but I'm glad I was able to get to that point. Saying no to gigs that were not aligned: this is still a constant process for me as a freelancer and a test I face almost daily. I have noticed, though, that the deeper I'm in work, the minute I say no to a gig that either is too far to travel, not artistically satisfying or not financially aligned, like CLOCKWORK, another more aligned opportunity will come through.
I'm sure I'll continue to pass and fail some of these tests, but I'm finding my patterning through it all! The biggest test was when I met my partner. He made a move after we had been hanging out for a few weeks. At this point, I knew what I would and would not accept out of a relationship. Instead of allowing him to go in for the kiss, I LITERALLY pushed him back and proceeded to state my needs (clearly but awkwardly!). He was not sure if he wanted a serious relationship at the time and was also dating other people. I told him I didn't want something casual and I needed to be the only person he was dating. I was FULLY prepared to let him go, even though I really really liked him, if he was not able to meet me where I was. I chose myself.
Did you experience a magic dark period? If so, tell us about it.: I think I experienced one magic dark. It was very recently before a ton of manifestations came, though! It was during an off period for me. I had two weeks completely free from work which is very rare for me! I think it was unsettling for my nervous system, which is used to going 100 mph. I was all set to start this new bridge job in the fall, which is more of a part-time situation, and I was anxious I wouldn't be able to fill up the free weeks with income. I was also searching for a place to stay in the city where the bridge job is since I'm not based there.
It seemed like for those two weeks that the well had dried up. I had no leads about where to live, and I had no work to fill in the gaps in my schedule. I remained in trust and was working diligently through the Unblocking Challenge and taking my Unblocked remedy. Then on the same day, at the end of the two-week "magic dark," I found a place to stay for free while I was working, and more work than I could even accept being offered to me for the off weeks in my schedule. Some of this work, too, is with my dream orchestra and exceeds my financial expectations for the season.
How did your manifestation come through?: Each one came in a little differently, but if I could distill it down - it seems my patterning is when I reach a place where I'm okay with letting go of whatever it is I think I must have to be worthy, the thing comes through. The way I see it, my Highest Self makes these decisions and knows what is mine will be mine in due time. Sometimes my Inner Child is kicking and screaming in protest, but through growing my trust muscle, she has healed so much, and I'm in a space where I choose myself over and over again.
With my partner, I had to be okay with letting him go. With the job I left, I had to be okay with letting go of the version of myself that had a title and "security" in order to create space for something more aligned, which came through within months. When I manifested more work for next season - I had to say no to some gigs that were decent, but I knew they weren't aligned, and I was fully okay with not having that income so I could leave space for something more aligned to come through.
How long did it take for your manifestation to come through after crafting your initial list?: Anywhere between 2-6 months
How frequently were you using the workshops and DI's when you noticed the biggest shift surrounding your manifestation?: DAILY
How do you incorporate this work into your life on a daily basis? Any tips, tricks or recommendations for getting the most out of it, or personalizing it?: As someone who travels a lot, the airplane DI is my favorite tool! I also have tons of notes on my phone. When I journal, I try to make it more of a ritual since I'm always on the go. And if I'm feeling short on time, I will put in a DI when I'm walking or warming up on my instrument. I truly feel like there is no "wrong" way to do this! Biggest tip though...LISTEN TO THE POD AND SUPPORTED! It's golden.
If you'd like, please include your IG handle: @shelbynugenthorn
WORKSHOPS
Shadow / Inner Child / Love / Money
