Progress, Not Perfection

“Perfect” is an illusion and does not exist as we are all so unique, and constantly changing. I see the concept of perfectionism come up a lot for this community, friends, and even myself. When we distill down perfectionism, it’s really a grasp at the control and being lovable that is fully rooted in fear.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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If you experience perfectionistic tendencies, chances are that somewhere along the line, probably in childhood, you picked up a limiting belief that goes something like this: “I have to do everything right, and be everything to everyone in order to be loved”. OR if you grew up in chaos, perfectionism can be a subconscious grasp at control stemming from a time when it felt like you had very little control.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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What we have to remind our adult selves, through subconscious reprogramming + action steps, is that PROGRESS is all that matters, because perfect doesn’t exist. And even if you were going to make an argument that it does exist, it’s always going to be a sliding scale. “Perfect” looks different to everyone, and on top of that, your own definition of perfect will continue to change as you reach new levels, therefore you’ll be in a constant chase for something that doesn’t exist. This also means you are placing your worth outside of you and thus on an external circumstance, and external circumstances are always changing so you’re worth it when outside is on unstable ground. This keeps you small, hinders your growth, and even more so, it will keep you feeling unhappy and unable to enjoy the present progress moment.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Life is supposed to be full of growth, exploration, connection, and all of the things you most enjoy. Loosen your grip on perfectionism, and you’ll probably experience so much of these things. I recommend taking feelings of perfectionism through Unblocked Inner Child & Shadow to get to the root and reprogram.⠀

Photo by Marco Bianchetti⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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