Meeting Your Shadow

Q: I’m beginning to feel confused by how my 12 step program and manifestation work together. Sitting in meetings with people who are struggling makes me feel the opposite of expanded.

A: Finding meetings where you can be surrounded by expanders, or using this as an opportunity for Shadow work is the best way to approach it. I’ve done my fair share of meetings because of my mom and I used to think, “I’m not inspired by anyone. This is bringing me down and depressing me”. I started to look at it from my own personal perspective, and I start to think that there's an opportunity to do some shadow work here because what I’m turned off by and what people in this group are reflecting back to me. Things like back in my childhood or adolescence that I picked up that weren’t okay, and I wouldn’t be loved if I were those things. I actually started to use it as a way to go and do my shadow work. I would look at people who I would have had judgments about and I would go home and do the work through the workshop. It’s also about finding the meetings where you’re surrounded by people who inspire you. I cannot stress enough how important shadow work is to getting into your magnetism and accepting yourself as a whole. The mirrors in your life that show up are making you feel activated, judgemental, turned off, are all opportunities to become that whole spectrum of a person. It’s a beautiful lens to view addiction and healing and recovery that isn’t just about abstinence. It goes a lot deeper.

Q: Is it possible to manifest self-love?

A: Getting into Unblocked Inner Child and Shadow and doing the Deep Imaginings™ often is super important for this. It sounds like you're wanting to reprogram your brain to have self-worth and wholeness again. I recommend revisiting Shadow and Inner Child every two to three months since you're going to be changing very rapidly, and also doing the daily reprogramming exercise at least three to four times a week.