Settling
Q: I can’t shake the belief that because I settled for my husband, it’s pulling things in the wrong direction. Is that possible?
A: If you’re worried that that’s going to be blocking your magnetism, it’s absolutely not. Anywhere that you’re settling in the relationship and being small will. Anywhere that you are not wanting to do what you need to do for yourself will. But just physically being with this partner isn’t going to do it, especially if this partner is supportive and kind and believes in you. The energy of the partner can affect your manifestation process only if the energetic is a block, meaning that they are negative, belittling you, and/or not believing in your dreams. This means your things can’t come through until this energy alleviates and lifts. Now that doesn’t mean if you’re married, you have to divorce him, but it does mean that you guys need to do work on the relationship together. I love the book, Getting the Love You Want, and doing the work out of that together. Use the Imago technique to truly communicate both of your deepest and intimate fears, so you can start to create freedom and ease, and the block can ease down and you can feel powerful.
Q: Do you have suggestions for ways to significantly raise low-worth?
A: Create boundaries and use the Daily Reprogramming Exercise to work through each individual trigger as it appears. I like to get clear if I notice I’m being small in a situation because I don’t feel good enough. I then go home and do the work on it. I start to look at how I can take up more space next time. I’ll look at the shadow that I rejected that makes me think I’m not allowed to take up space. I’ll start to drop those in conversations. It’s a daily practice to raise your self-worth. Obviously, you can’t do it retroactively aside from reprogramming. That’s the only practice I’ve tried that has been effective, especially if it’s a process I’m doing at least three times a week and targeting what’s triggering me. Another thing is to surround yourself with people who have high self-worth or loving energy towards themselves. On the physical plane, one of the most helpful techniques out there for me is surrounding myself with people who already treat themselves or behave in a way that I aspire to. Other things I like to look at are the ways that I shrink. They’re a representation of when I’m not feeling worthy. The hypnotic reprogramming, new neural pathways, and the reinforcement of those have been incredibly helpful for me.
Q: I feel as though I've never been fully seen in my relationship with my partner. I've always craved a deeper connection, but when I try to bring it up with them I'm met with a shoulder shrug or just indifference. What do I do?
A: There are still aspects inside of you on the subconscious level that are afraid of deep intimacy. Once you can point to it and you shift it, if you don't see an energetic difference in your partner over time, this is where you really have to ask yourself what is most important in your relationship and if you are not receiving it, perhaps it is time to go.
