Triggers Show Me Where I Need to Heal

Hi! It’s Atarah, one of TBM’s coaches! The biggest theme in my sessions lately has been TRIGGERS! Mostly, avoiding triggers! (This does not include PTSD or deep trauma).

We’ve all been there, feeling in our worth, walking a little taller, feeling light & free, then something happens & it completely shakes our foundation. We feel angry, weak, desperate, or just flat out destroyed. cue the dramatic music Don’t worry, we all get triggered!
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A trigger is like a pin on your internal roadmap, an emotional GPS showing you exactly where you still have some work to do! ⁣
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1. Blame the external situation/person completely & decide to remove them from our life to avoid this feeling. ⁣
2. We can understand that this is simply highlighting where we need to put some attention so we can continue to grow into our most authentic selves.⁣
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If you look a little closer into the energetics you will usually find the thing that is triggering you, maybe someone’s overt directness is a rejected aspect of self that still needs to be integrated. We don’t have good or bad qualities. We do, however, sometimes use aspects of our personalities out of proportion to the situation in front of us. Being “too nice” can cause people to walk all over you, being “too selfish” will make it hard for you to have friends. It’s all about balance.⁣
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The next time a trigger presents itself try using this process:⁣
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Trigger Daily Reprogramming Exercise (DRE): I like to do this as close to the situation as possible. If I can’t, I will create a voice note on my phone & completely let it out, and refer back to it later. This is a great way to have an immediate release, but it also allows you to hear exactly how it made you feel when you revisit it before your DRE.⁣
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Bonus Healing: At the end of the Deep Imagining (DI) in this exercise, I like to visualize my magnetic self displaying the quality that INITIALLY triggered me in a healthy, balanced way, and in an appropriate situation.
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Once you can identify this behavior as useful, & see the benefits of integrating it, you’ve immediately removed the shame around it and can leave with a new, powerful, quality to help you stay in your worth.

If you’re feeling stuck in this area, book a session with one of our coaches!

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